Oh New Year’s Day, a time packed with “I haven’t showered since last year” jokes, plethoras of champagne and newsfeeds filled with “new year, new me” affirmations.
I have never been one to really make (or stick to) resolutions. For many years I have felt comfortable with where I was at, but at this point in my life I am really realizing what an important impact New Year’s Resolutions make on our lives. We should never allow ourselves to become stagnant and we should always be striving to better who we are.
So for 2019, I decided to challenge myself to accomplish not one, but six separate resolutions throughout the year. I wanted my goals to extend past only focusing on the typical fitness and personal resolutions and hit additional topics that would not only better myself, but the people in my life as well. This year, I challenge you to do the same!
Here are my six resolutions for 2019:
Professional Resolution: Learn To Say No
I am currently at the age where I would normally be in career purgatory – I am not longer considered an entry-level employee, but I am also not quite seasoned enough for management positions. However, thanks to some job changes in 2018, I am lucky enough to represent my agency as our sole Paid Social Specialist.
This role has given me a lot of room for flexibility and experimentation, but it also comes with a ton of responsibility and expectations being placed on me. Those responsibilities evolve into a plethora of extra projects, meetings, and requests being sent my way. While I am thankful to be in a situation where my work is so highly valued by my coworkers, these requests can sometimes become overwhelming.
But my issue is that as a self-imposed people pleaser and overachiever, “no” is not a word I use often at work. I will say yes to anything that is asked of me, no matter if I am buried in projects, have an appointment I need to head out to or am required to stay until I am one of the last people in the office. This has caused a lot of pressure on me and to be honest, has likely affected the quality of work I am able to produce. This isn’t my coworker’s fault at all, I just haven’t been honest with them when I am feeling overwhelmed.
That’s why in 2019, I plan on learning to say no more. If I have too much on my plate or am feeling stressed out I will let those around me know that I can’t take on another project or attend that meeting. I need to make sure I am making the time to put in my all and continuing my education around digital marketing strategies and social media.
Relationship Resolution: Make More Of An Effort
Throughout my life, I have experienced a lot of different kinds of relationships – not only with significant others but also with friends and family members. But looking back at the way I have handled my relationships in 2018 was disappointing to me.
My issue is that I became too focused on myself this year, and while there is no issue with shifting attention to your personal endeavors, it really negatively impacted the relationships I hold with my loved ones. My wonderful fiancé Kevin always put me first, doing small things like taking time to sit down and listen to me without distractions and texting me throughout my day to tell me he loves me. However, I haven’t done the same for him. I have gotten into the habit of only reaching out to my sister and my friends when I need something from them or to complain, not to ask them how they are doing or catch up. And during my weekly phone calls with my parents, I notice that I only talk about myself, but never talk about them.
In 2019 I want to change this. I plan on going out of my way to improve my communication patterns and relationships to show those around me just how much they mean to me, making more of an effort overcome my selfish patterns.
Passion-Fueled Resolution: Never Miss A Monday
Did you know that Gamer in a Gown is the THIRD blog I have ever worked on? My first blog started as a positivity project that fell short due to my inconsistency and impatience and my second blog was a group effort that did not work out due to some creative differences. But I am dedicated to making Gamer in a Gown something that is long-term and worthwhile.
Whether you popped over by chance from Pinterest or are a loyal follower, I owe you consistent and quality content. I want to make sure that what I am doing is providing some kind of benefit for my readers, and I feel my most confident and proud of my posts and articles. This is why my passion project goal for 2019 is to never miss sharing a new blog post every Monday and not let myself falter or slack off.
Fitness Resolution: Understand That Nobody Cares
I am a notorious overthinker, especially when it comes to other people’s opinions of me. I am just the kind of person who believes that when a group of people is whispering, they MUST be making fun of me, or when somebody looks my way they are probably judging me. And this thought process is at its highest at the gym.
I’ll be honest here, I will probably never be a fitness blogger. My workout outfits consist more of old, ratty t-shirts from college and less of Lululemon and I spend most of my time cluelessly walking around the gym floor. One thing I am always terrified to do is use workout equipment like the machines or weights because I feel as though everyone is staring and judging me.
But my fitness goal this upcoming year is to come to terms with the fact that (contrary to my belief) people don’t care what I am doing on the gym floor. In fact, they probably don’t notice me at all. Everybody at the gym is in their own little world, and I should allow myself to be in my own world as well. That’s why in the upcoming year, I plan on allowing myself to workout on whatever equipment I please without worrying about what other people may be thinking about me.
Financial Resolution: Become A Homeowner
2019 is definitely going to be a huge year for Kevin and I. Not only are we getting married in March and going on our very first trip abroad (Singapore and the Maldives), we have also been working hard to save up funds for the biggest purchase of all – a house.
Our goal for 2019 is to finally say goodbye to the rent life by the time our lease ends this fall and hello to the wonderful world of mortgages. This is definitely the largest financial resolution Kevin and I have ever put in place, but I am so excited to really finish our first year as a married couple strong with a home of our own.
Personal Resolution: Stop Comparing Myself
I have spoken a lot about my issues with self-consciousness pretty heavily both on the blog as well as on Instagram. I am the kind of person who constantly lurks on social media, searching high and low for accounts with similar content and then keeping myself awake at night wondering how they have so many more followers/engagements than me. What am I doing wrong?
I have spoken with so many people over the course of the last few months about my social media strategy and concerns and what I have come to understand is this – somebody will ALWAYS have better pictures than you or a prettier color scheme or more followers or more insightful content, but these people will never be you. Even if you only have 10 followers on social media, those 10 people followed you because they like what you are putting out in the world. This is something I am dedicated to reminding myself over the course of 2019. I need to stop focusing all of my energy on the what-if’s, and start turning my attention on what I have, both online and in real life.
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